Hi dear Reader,

Do you find yourself often snapping at your partner, yelling at your kids, feeling resentful toward colleagues, or envious of strangers?
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​These emotions or reactions fall within the anger family.

Most people don't realize anger isn't a single emotion—it's a family of related feelings: frustration, resentment, envy, irritation, rage, and more.

Each one carries a slightly different message about what's happening inside you.
When you learn to identify which emotion you're actually feeling and understand the message behind it, you stop reacting and start responding.

Let’s talk about anger, not an emotion to suppress or be ashamed of, but as a valuable signal guiding you toward what you need most.

Over the past four weeks, we’ve explored:

1. Anxiety – Doubting your abilities
2. Fear – False Expectations Appearing Real
3. Overwhelm – When everything feels like too much
4. Shame – The emotion you’re hiding from everyone

Today: Anger—the emotion that reveals your values and boundaries.

What Anger Really Tells US
​Let’s complete our emotional vocabulary:

• Anxiety says: “I can’t handle what’s coming.”
• Fear says: “Don’t do it—something bad will happen.”
• Overwhelm says: “I’m too exhausted to function.”
• Shame says: “There’s something fundamentally wrong with me.”
• Anger says: “What matters most to me has been violated, or someone crossed my boundary.”

Anger is your internal alarm system.

It surfaces when:

• Someone acts against your core values (honesty, respect, kindness, family, justice, connection...)
• Your boundaries are repeatedly ignored
• Your needs go unacknowledged or unmet
• You witness or experience behavior that conflicts with what you hold sacred

The question isn’t whether you should feel anger (because you will!)
The question is: What is it trying to tell you?

Anger Isn’t Just One Feeling; Learn to Identify What Exactly You're Feeling

Anger isn’t a single emotion; it’s an entire family of emotions.

Each of these emotions carries a slightly different message about what’s happening inside you.
This is where emotional literacy becomes essential: the ability to accurately identify and name what you’re feeling.

To help you with emotional literacy, keep The Wheel of Emotions close to you and start naming what you really feel.

This wheel shows the full spectrum of emotions, including the many variations within the anger family.
Use it to explore what’s underneath your anger or any other emotion you are feeling.

How to Build Emotional Connection?

To understand your anger and what it’s signaling, I invite you to reflect on these questions:

When do I feel this emotion most often?

• Is it in specific relationships?
• Certain situations at work?
• When particular values are violated?

What is happening inside my body when I feel it?

• Where do you feel anger physically?
• Chest tightness? Jaw clenching? Heat rising?
• Hands balling into fists? Stomach knotting?

What thoughts run through my head when I feel angry?

• “This isn’t fair”?
• “They’re not listening to me”?
• “I’ve had enough”?
• “Why does this keep happening”?

Do I identify with my anger?

• Do you say “I am just an angry person”?
• Have you made anger part of your identity?

The capacity for this reflection is the foundation of emotional connection.

Emotional resilience (intelligence) = Emotional connection + Emotional literacy.

What Lies Beneath Our Emotions? The Unmet Needs!

As a trained emotions coach, I’ve learned something crucial: underneath every emotion is usually an unmet need.

When you feel anger, ask yourself:

What need is unmet right now?
- The need to be seen, heard or respected?
- The need to be appreciated?
- The need for safety?
- The need for autonomy?

You feeling angry is telling you that something you need isn’t being honored, by others or by yourself.

The Path to Peace Goes From Reaction to Response:

When you understand what your anger is signalling—which value has been violated, which boundary has been crossed, which need is unmet—you can move from reaction to response.

Reaction is unconscious. It’s the snap, the explosion, the silent resentment that builds over time.

Response is conscious. It’s saying, “I notice I’m feeling angry because my need for respect wasn’t met. I’m going to communicate that boundary clearly.”

This shift, from reactive anger to conscious response, is what creates:

• Harmony in all your relationships instead of tension
• Understanding with your partner instead of conflicts
• Clarity in your communication instead of explosive arguments
• Stability in your emotions instead of feeling out of control or overwhelmed

Peace, Stability and Joy Can Be Felt Daily

If you’re tired of feeling reactive, tense, and on edge, if you want peaceful relationships where you feel heard and respected, let’s talk.

I guide individuals to build emotional stability, so they respond with calm and clarity instead of reactivity.

Together, we'll work on:
- Exploring what's happening in your body when you feel emotions (Energy in Motion)
- Identifying and naming what exactly you are feeling
- Exploring and understanding the unmet needs beneath the emotions
- Building emotional literacy and resilience
- Transforming reactive patterns into conscious responses

The outcome of emotions coaching?
​Harmony and understanding in your relationships.
Peace in your daily life.
Clarity in your communication.
Stability in your emotions.

​Book a free discovery call, and let’s explore how you can move from reaction to response, from tension to peace.

With warmth and love,
Kora

P.S. Start with the Wheel of Emotions today. The next time you feel anger, sadness or fear, use it to identify what’s really underneath.
This simple practice is the first step toward emotional mastery.