Hi dear Reader,

When was the last time you felt truly clear about what you want?

Not what you should want.
Not what others expect.
Not what makes logical sense.

What YOU actually want.

If you’re struggling to answer, that's ok, you’re not alone.

Confusion.
Uncertainty.
Stuckness.
That feeling of “I don’t know who I am anymore” or “I don’t know what I want.”

This isn’t a crisis. It’s a signal of a lost connection to yourself.

And today, in our final email of this 8-week journey, we’re going to talk about how to find your way back.

Over the past seven weeks, we’ve explored the most common emotions that humans feel that are influencing life and relationships:

1. ✅ Anxiety – Doubting your abilities
2. ✅ Fear – False Expectations Appearing Real
3. ✅ Overwhelm – When everything feels like too much
4. ✅ Shame – The emotion you’re hiding from everyone
5. ✅ Anger – What your anger is really telling you
6. ✅ Sadness/Grief – What do you do when sadness shows up?
7. ✅ Loneliness/Disconnection – Why you feel alone even with others

Today: Confusion, Uncertainty & Stuckness.

What Stuckness Is Telling you

Let’s complete our emotional vocabulary one final time:

• Anxiety says: “I can’t handle what’s coming”
• Fear says: “Don’t do it—something bad will happen”
• Overwhelm says: “I’m too exhausted to function”
• Shame says: “There’s something fundamentally wrong with me”
• Anger says: “What matters most to me has been violated”
• Sadness says: “I’m experiencing loss or disappointment”
• Loneliness says: “I’m disconnected from myself and others”
• Confusion/Stuckness says: “I’ve lost awareness of who I am beyond my labels and roles”

Stuckness is a signal that you’ve lost connection to your authentic self.

You feel stuck not because you lack options, but because you don’t know who you are beyond the labels.

Think about it:

Who are you beyond:
- Your gender, race, nationality?
- Your profession or job title?
- Your roles as parent, partner, daughter, son, friend?
- The expectations others have placed on you?

When you don’t know who YOU are, what matters to YOU, what YOU truly want, it is very natural not to know your direction.

And without direction, you feel:
- Confused about every decision
- Stuck in situations that don’t fit
- Uncertain about what to do next

What Creates This Disconnection?

1. Conditioning (The Biggest Culprit)

From childhood, you absorbed messages from:
- Your family (“This is who you should be”)
- Society (“This is what success looks like”)
- Your culture (“These are the rules to follow”)

You learned to be who others wanted, not who you are.

2. Not Knowing Your Values

When you don’t know what truly matters to you, you:
- Can’t make confident decisions
- Second-guess every choice
- Avoid decisions entirely because nothing feels “right”
- Doubt yourself constantly

Without values, you have no internal compass.

3. Fear of the “Wrong” Choice

When you’re disconnected from yourself, every decision feels high-stakes.

“What if I choose wrong?” “What if I regret this?” “What if I disappoint people?”

But here’s the truth: There is no “wrong” choice when you’re aligned with your authentic self.

The antidote to feeling confusion isn’t more options or better advice.

It’s self-awareness.

Self-awareness means knowing:
- Who you are beyond labels and roles
- What truly matters to you (your values)
- What you need to feel fulfilled
- How do you relate to your emotions
- What drives your decisions and behaviors

When you develop deep self-awareness, clarity replaces confusion.
Confidence replaces doubt. Direction replaces stuckness.

Here’s something powerful: The way you relate to your emotions reveals what’s keeping you stuck.

As an emotions coach trained by In Good Company (UK), I work with a framework called Emotional Archetypes.

4 core archetypes describe how people relate to their emotions:

1. Emotional Fragmentation
​You can explain and describe your emotions intellectually, but you rarely let yourself feel them.

2. Emotional Stonewalling
​You disconnect from your emotions, often ignoring them until they become overwhelming.

3. Emotional Flooding
​You become overwhelmed by your emotions and find it hard to express them clearly or regulate them.

4. Emotional Freedom
​You’re connected to your emotions and can express yourself freely and appropriately.

I’am sharing today with you a free Emotional Archetypes Assessment I use with my clients to help you discover which archetype resonates most with you right now.

​Take the Free Assessment Here

The goal isn’t just to “manage” emotions. ​
​It’s to achieve emotional freedom, the ability to choose how you respond, connect deeply with yourself and others, and live authentically.

If you’ve been reading these emails for the past 8 weeks, first: Congratulations.

You’ve invested in understanding yourself at a deeper level.
You’ve learned about emotions that most people avoid, suppress, deny, want to control, or are not aware of their entire lives.

That takes courage.

Now the question is: What will you do with this knowledge?

Reading about emotions is powerful.
But applying what you’ve learned?
That’s where your peace, ease, and clarity live.

Ready to Become Emotionally Free in 2026?

Let’s work on your freedom and clarity together.

As a certified emotions coach, I guide clients through a structured process to build a healthy relationship with all their emotions.

Discover who you are beyond labels and conditioning, develop emotional literacy, resilience, and intelligence, and transform confusion into clarity and confidence. More details about the emotions coaching I provide can be found here.

​Book a free introductory call, and ask anything about coaching, and how I can support your journey to your desired life.

Want to make 2026 your year of clarity, confidence, and freedom?

With warmth, belief, and excitement for your journey,
Kora

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P.S. Start with the Emotional Archetypes Assessment.
Understanding how you relate to your emotions is the first step toward freedom.
Let’s talk about what’s possible when you choose emotional freedom.